Overlooking apperance

Some of the greatest guys have had some bad luck. Not everyone has been graced with a model's body and appearance. Even some models have a terrible personality and attitude, but that is part of life. Everyone is different and has different personalities and looks. That is part of what makes dating interesting, some of the prettiest girls can have the darkest hearts, while some of the less than average guys could be prince charming in disguise.

I know one guy who had many facial surgeries as a child, it left him with terrible scars and as he grew his jaw bone got messed up too. He was a quiet guy that kept to himself, but was very funny and sweet once you got to know him. Throughout the last few years we lost contact, but I was surprised to get a phone call from him the other day. He told me that he had signed up for the U.S. Army and his life has turned around. He is working on following the career of his dreams, becoming a US border agent. He also got the body he always wanted. The Army also paid for surgery to help him with his jaw and all of the scaring. He looks like a totally different man, and it has made him a more confidant man in life. He said he wants to reconnect with people that knew him before his transformation because they are the ones that had seen past his appearance.

My sister recently accepted a date with a guy whom she said had some bad luck with his teeth. He is nervous and self-conscious about his appearance, but she told him that as long as he is a nice guy and has his stuff together, she'll give him a chance. I was proud to hear that from her, she also said he gave her the details of how his teeth got messed up and how he is saving to get them fixed. He sounds like a great guy; I hope it works out for her.

One of my exes’s had some teeth issues as well. We were young and he made a mistake that ended the relationship, but as we have grown older we became friends again. He was always nervous about his teeth, he didn't have the money to get them fixed and it impacted his attitude. He was lucky to get a job in another state that offered benefits and he was able to get his teeth fixed like he has always wanted. I am glad to see how just a small fix like getting his teeth fixed up had increased his confidence, which improved other things in his life as well.

Appearance is important, don't get me wrong. I know there must be some physical attraction to the person you are going on a date with, but it isn't everything. Some things are small and aren't worth worrying over. At the end of the day, try to overlook someone's appearance and give them a chance to show you their personality and what makes them a great person.